7 Signs A Person is Good For You

Before you read this article, I want to make it clear that if you don't find these signs in the person whom you are with, then it does not mean that they are not good for you. There are many other good signs which makes them good for you. The following information is just for general guidance and prepared on personal opinion. There is no intention of hurting, pointing out, making shameful to someone. Just read it for entertainment purpose only.

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In life, we meet different people and friends, some of them are so good for us and we call them best friends or our wellwishers, and the others are bad whom we call the toxic friends. These toxic friends are the most dangerous people because they can make your life and mental health miserable. 

It is so difficult to find out who is good for you and who is just pretending to be good. You cannot understand other's intentions unless you know mind-reading tactics. There is a large list of signs that can tell you if someone is not good for you, but I want you to be optimistic and look on the other side, today we will look at the positive signs to understand whether someone is good for you or not. 

Here are 7 signs that can tell you whether they are good for you.

Signs A Person is Good for You

1. They have good control over their emotions

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When talking to someone, do you feel like they are so happy and enjoying one moment, and suddenly they become angry and defensive in another? If yes, then it is not a good sign for someone to be good for you because a person who lacks in managing his emotions can be harmful to your mental health.

People who do not have control over emotions possess to be thoughtless, impulsive or even violent. This may happen because of their past experience or any other reasons. But the truth is if they are doing this every time and they make you sad and disturbed, then it is not your responsibility to always fix everything with them.

If you have already connected to them, you should consult any professional.

2. They listen to you carefully and interact equally

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Do they interrupt you or dominate you while you talk to them? Are they always want to speak and don't want to listen to you? Are they ignoring what you are saying and just want you to complete so that they can speak? If the answer is yes, then my friend! they are not good for your mental health because this type of conversation with them will make you exhausted and feel worthless.

If they are good for you, they will listen to you, they will interact with you by agreeing, giving you advice and putting questions related to the conversation. If you feel excited to tell them about your day and they listen to it with interest, then they are good for your mental health.

3. They are not dependent and enjoy their own company

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If they don't hesitate to go out alone and are comfortable with their own company, then it is a positive sign that they will not become dependent on you for their daily work.

You may have friends who always need a partner to go outside even for walking a few blocks, they want someone with them when they want to buy ice cream, they want someone to go to the movie theatre, they want someone to choose for them, and many more. This type of friend will only increase the burden on your head and will impact negatively on your mental health.

If they are good at doing things for themself without giving the burden on your mind, then they are good for you. Studies show that people who are comfortable alone tends to have high confidence level and they are independent, they also have great personality traits which can even help in the growth of people in the group.

In case, you don't find this sign that does not conclude that they are not good for you, in fact, you should always assure that they are not taking more than what you can give. 

4. They admire you for who you are

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Sometimes a person pushes you so hard to change you for who you are and what you want. This type of person is not good for you.

A person who admires you for who you are and respects your boundaries, does not push you hard for the things which you are not comfortable with, does not take you out of your comfort zone without your permission, then they are good for you because they will not make you feel low, and will give you empathy and support in difficult situations.

Again, if they are pushing you out of your comfort zone does not conclude that they are not good for you, but you should talk about it and tell them you are not comfortable with it. It will help in improving your mental health.

5. Their character is good

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Well! this is the first sign everyone sees in a person when they meet or connect. A person with good character is rare and in demand by everyone. So what does a good character means to you?

Everyone has different views about good character. For me, a person with good character means they are honest, they don't lie, their actions meet words, they accept and apologize for their mistakes, they are supportive and kind. So, if they have good character then they are good for you.

If one is constantly lying to you, they blame others for their mistakes, they always break their promises, they become aggressive easily and are defensive in nature, then they are not good for your mental health.

Just ask one question to yourself, do you feel proud of being a friend of that person and grateful that they are with you? If the answer is yes, then yes, they have good character and they are good for you.

6. They understand how and when to ask for help

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If they refuse to ask for your help even when they are in need of it, just because of their ego and pride, then they will harm your mental health because you can't help them even if you want to. It can lead to frustration.

Also, if a person is constantly asking for your help every time, they are so dependent on you, this is also not good for you.

A person who is well aware of the time when he needs the help of others and how can they do it, is a sign that shows the real character of that person. If they solve their problem first by trying it themself and if they can't do it, they go for anyone's help, this is a sign that they are well balanced in accepting the help from others. This type of person will give a positive environment around you and will decrease your stress too.

7. They look for a long-term relationship

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Do they share things about their childhood and their secret life incidents with you? Do they share the moments that made them feel embarrassed? If they are doing so, it means that they trust you will all their heart and wants a close, long, deep and strong relationship.

If they are investing their time, energy and efforts in you and want a long-term relationship, then it is a sign that they are good for you. There are also the chances that being a friend of this type of person will improve your mental health and can motivate you for the best things you always want to achieve. 

At last, the decision of whether someone is good or not, completely depends on you only. A single list cannot determine the character of a person. So, just ask yourself, are you happy with them? do you feel safe with them? Can you be the true you with them without any pretending and show-offs? If yes, then they are good for you, nothing else will matter.

Thanks for reading and let me know if you found it helpful in the comment section.

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